I try to exercise every day. I will walk on my breaks at work if it’s not too cold or raining too hard. And after work and on the weekends, I go for a run (well, a run, or a jog, which turns into my walking and telling myself “you can walk this block and then run the next few; it’s called intervals!” while panting, for which I have an excuse: I have asthma. And I’m fat. My point is, I’m exercising outside). And when I pass people, I usually smile, sometimes nodding, sometimes getting out a “hi” between the gasping (or mouthing it, whatever). And sometimes people will smile back or say hi back. But often people just ignore me. Why is that? Why aren’t people nice? Is it because of the aforementioned panting? Or is it because of the sweat pouring off of me? Or are they so horrified by the sight of my trying to run?
I also smile at people in the halls at work. Some people there ignore me, too. That’s usually the people that I know to be not so nice. Most people there say hi or smile or make small talk (sometimes more contact than I want). Actually, this brings me to a funny story. One young woman I work with waits for a ride home in front of the building every day. And apparently, one of the owners of the business said hi to her a few times, made small talk (something like, “nice weather we’re having!”), and waved, and she just ignored him. Someone who works with him a lot called our supervisor and told her that she may want to tell this young woman about this, because he is the big boss, and he said something about making her “his special project” or something. I just think it’s funny. First of all, she’s not overly, um, pleasant. Second, how do you just ignore someone who comes out of the same building as you and is waving and saying hi? It’s so weird. In any case, I’ve passed this man in the hall before and smiled, and he never seems to notice me. Perhaps I’m just not project worthy.
Anyway, I just think it’s rude to completely ignore people as they pass you. And I have another question, this time about sidewalk etiquette. If you’re walking next to someone and you see someone else coming down the sidewalk toward you, shouldn’t you try to step aside, perhaps behind (or in front of) the person you’re walking next to, instead of taking up the entire sidewalk? Wouldn’t that be proper sidewalk etiquette? That’s what I do when I’m walking with someone: I get out of the way. But I notice a lot of people don’t do that, forcing the third (solo) person onto someone’s lawn or into the street. And you know why? Because people are jerks.



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4-12-2008 at 16:58:13
Well, this is one topic I can certainly relate to and have much to say about. Since I live in NYC, walking is part of the daily routine. There are definitely many types of walkers. There are those who are in a hurry and walk very quickly. There are those with alot of stuff (bags, strollers, pets, etc.) Then there are those who walk slowly as if they have nowhere to go and all the time in the world to get there. But the worst type of walkers are the ones who can’t walk in a straight path because if they happen to also be the walkers who act like they have nowhere to go, they are very difficult to pass. (Personally, I spend a great deal of time walking quickly and trying to get around them). Now, regarding the courtesy “hi” and nod, this is usually not an issue in NYC because everyone (except the tourists) looks down at the ground to make sure they don’t step in anything. However, if one is looking up or straight ahead and eye contact has been made, it is proper etiquette to acknowledge the other pedestrian with the nod and sometimes even a smile. As for the “hi”, most people are already talking (into their cell phones or in some cases, just talking to themselves). NYC also has the “dance” of pedestrians who travel in great volume in two directions and usually don’t bump into one another. (This is really evident in places like the Times Square area). The people just shift automatically to avoid one another. It really is kind of cool. Oh, and with regards to the etiquette of on-coming pedestrians when one is two or more abreast (or walking a dog or three), it is proper to make room for the approaching walker but it doesn’t always happen.
People in the workplace who can’t make eye contact, smile or acknowledge a “hello” are just plain rude.
4-12-2008 at 19:07:47
Ooo, I wonder if I can guess the anonymous people you’re talking about at work! There are so many options for rude people there, though. You know who’s the nicest group of people at that particular workplace? The warehouse people. They always say hello and want to talk. And I’m sure it had nothing to do with the whole “old men in the warehouse, young girl passing through” thing. So next time you’re feeling slighted, go hang with the warehouse workers. Or maintenance–they’re cool too. And they can get you stuff, like maybe a fourth wall. Snort. Or not.
4-12-2008 at 21:01:57
Lisa, NYC is a different world. People aren’t going to say hi. There are massive amounts of people. But Smallbany is different. People can acknowledge your presence. Especially when you’re approaching them. Move out of my damn way.
Kristin, I’m sure you can guess some of the sour faces. And you’re right, those warehouse folk sure are friendly. Some of them are the small talkers I don’t have time for (or don’t feel like chatting with all the time; a smile and a hello is enough). But I’d chat it up with the maintenance people if it meant a fourth wall. Absolutely. There are a lot of things I would do for a fourth wall.
4-13-2008 at 07:32:02
There are a lot of things you would do for a fourth wall? Please, let’s keep this family-friendly, shall we?
4-13-2008 at 10:38:35
People are just jerks. Period. And I would do anything to get my own desk. And classroom. Lots of things. But we can get into that another time. But rest assured…they are all family friendly.
4-13-2008 at 14:42:22
I don’t have to keep it family-friendly, Kristin, but I will. Because I wouldn’t go that far. Have you seen some of those people?
And Miriam, there is a desk at home in the basement you can use as your own desk. But, actually, you’ll have to share it with the Pie.
4-14-2008 at 12:47:04
I would share anything with the Pie. She is the best!
4-14-2008 at 13:43:27
But the question is this: Will the Pie share with you? I think she would, actually.
4-15-2008 at 07:01:17
I will share the sidewalk with any of you - I will smile, say hello, chat it up, and perhaps even invite you to stop for a coffee!!
Miriam - you, the Pie and everyone else is invited to come here and share my desk whenever you like, in fact, I found the top of your jump drive on my desk last night!
Enjoy the weather - see you all on New Scotland Ave., Hackett Blvd., Madison Ave., Western Ave.,Washington Ave., or anywhere our feet may take us.
4-15-2008 at 10:16:10
And when we walk side by side, don’t I always jump out of the way of oncoming foot traffic? And what’s with the “perhaps?” You best be making me some coffee!
4-15-2008 at 11:43:03
The “perhaps” meant if one of us remembers to bring our coffee cards along with us!!
You can come for coffee to the family compound whenever you want - just call and I will put on the pot.
And yes, Sara, you are very polite. Always stepping out of the way of oncoming traffic is very smart too.
4-15-2008 at 20:13:38
I always bring my coffee cards when I take a long walk with you, Mom. That’s what we do: walk and drink coffee!
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